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Like all the world around us, we too face a very difficult time which adversely affects our regular assembling for worship, prayer and fellowship. Though we are eager to continue with our regular programmes, we are constrained to make changes because of the instructions from:

1. the government to limit gatherings to 250 people or less, and
2. the SingPost authorities to suspend our activities in their auditorium.

Therefore the Board of Elders has decided to rearrange our programmes – from 23rd of March until further notice – as follows:

Sunday Worship Service

There will be five smaller gatherings, namely (i) 8.30am–9.30am, (ii) 10.00am–11.00am, (iii) 11.30am–12.30pm [Mandarin Service], (iv) 4.00pm–5.00pm, (v) 6.00pm–7.00pm.

We would advise members and friends to follow the timing suggested to you. Please refer to the groupings placed at the reception area, and note the suggested timing for your participation of worship.

• Sunday’s children’s activities and Sunday’s fellowship groups (Filipino & Malayalam Fellowships) will not be held until further notice. Likewise, the Catechism Classes, Bible Studies, Ministry to the Lions Home for the Elders are also suspended.
• Upon arrival for the worship, all worshippers (members and visitors) are advised to register themselves via QR code made available, for the purpose of contact-tracing if necessary.
• Please follow the instructions provided earlier to prevent the possible infection and spread of the virus.
• We advise those who are unwell and susceptible to infections, not to attend the services.
• We regret to inform you that entry will not be allowed if you –
  • have fever or any respiratory infection symptoms, such as cough, runny nose or sore throat; or
  • have travelled overseas in the past 14 days, or
  • are currently serving a Quarantine Order or Stay-Home Notice.

God willing, the recordings of the sermons will be made available through our church’s website and YouTube account (from next week onwards).

Prayer Meeting & Fellowship Groups

Prayer meeting will be incorporated in the various fellowship gatherings. Tuesday night’s prayer meeting will not be held in SingPost.

• The fellowship groups will be meeting at GMC as follows – Youth Fellowship (1st Saturday), Men’s Fellowship (2nd Saturday), Ladies’ Fellowship (3rd Saturday), Adults’ Fellowship (4th Saturday), Young Adults’ Fellowship (3rd Friday), and Seniors’ Fellowship (2nd & 4th Week).
• Children’s programme will be available on 2nd, 3rd and 4th Saturdays.
• Church Choir and the Youth Choir will not be meeting, until further notice.

We would advise that more stringent measures may be implemented to ensure our physical well-being owing to the fast-changing circumstances.

Your Spiritual Needs

We are looking forward to the restoration of our usual Sunday worship services and various fellowship group activities. While we wait for the resumption of all these regular events, our preachers, elders, deacons and I are committed to ministering to you. Our church office will remain open Monday–Friday during the regular hours of 9.30am–5.30pm. We encourage you to call us if you have any spiritual need.

Bible Witness Media Ministry and Gethsemane Bible Institute will continue to provide you with more spiritually edifying contents through their websites and web-radio. Sunday sermons will be available in our church’s websites.

Make every effort in your homes along with your family, friends, and neighbours, to make full use of the edifying materials available through the internet. Feed on God’s Word and pray together.

Please attend weekend ministries – but only if you are in good health – and stay in touch with our church and fellowship leaders. Let’s remember the words of Hebrews 10:24, 25 – “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.”

The present uncertain times provide us with opportunities to encourage and strengthen the people of God, as well as to spread the Gospel in our community. So, render yourselves continually to minister to others according to the Lord’s leading. Be not anxious, but be strong in the knowledge of the Lord’s presence and His love for you, and serve Him diligently.

Finally, remember the words of the apostle Jude: “And of some have compassion, making a difference: And others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire; hating even the garment spotted by the flesh. Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen” (Jude 22-25).

The epidemic COVID-19 is spreading fear across the globe. Only a few places on earth are unaffected by this scourge. In Singapore, though our government has been taking appropriate measures to control its spreading, fear is a real factor that is unsettling many of her citizens. Even Christians are not spared from panic.

Fear Plaguing the Heart

God has warned in His Word that when He would scourge the earth for its wickedness, the hearts of people would melt and be troubled with anguish and dismay. He might use various means, such as war and pestilences, to strike the hearts of men with terror (cf. Leviticus 26:18-29). The punishments included sudden terror, resulting from calamities of a biological nature like contagious and infectious diseases. To the children of Israel, He said that when they would rebel against Him, He would “send a faintness into their hearts" (Leviticus 26:36) and that He would give them "a trembling heart, and failing of eyes, and sorrow of mind" (Deuteronomy 28:65).

When Jesus spoke about the terrifying end-time events, He referred to them as "the beginning of sorrows" (Matthew 24:8). Luke records Christ as saying, "…upon the earth distress of nations, with perplexity… men's hearts failing them for fear, and for looking after those things which are coming on the earth…" (Luke 21:25-26). These words of Christ forewarn us that in the days prior to His second coming, people will experience severe emotional stress that overwhelms and overpowers their senses. Acute, unrelieved fear and torment will plague people's hearts everywhere. The end-time situation will be a lot worse than what is experienced today. No effort of man would alleviate such fear. People will be scared to death because of what is happening around them. The events during the end-times will be calamitous, and there is no escape from such terrifying times as described by Christ.

Concerning humanity of the last days, Isaiah 13:8 says that "they shall be afraid: pangs and sorrows shall take hold of them; they shall be in pain as a woman that travaileth: they shall be amazed one at another; their faces shall be as flames." People will writhe in fear, and with astonishment they will look at one another, with their faces “aflame” (cf. Revelation 6:15-17; 9:6; 16:11; 18:8-23). Undoubtedly, the catastrophic end of human history will shock and terrorise the unbelieving world!

Overcoming Fear

On the other side of the coin, "fear not" is an oft-repeated exhortation in the Scriptures. It is mentioned about 60 times throughout the Bible. God wants His people not to be consumed by fear which adverse circumstances will attempt to instil in them. He wants all His people to know that they do not need to be anxious and fearful. Rather, they must teach themselves that it is their Heavenly Father's desire concerning them that they will not give in to fear. To ignore God's will concerning us is a sin. So, we as God's people must encourage ourselves in His love, care, protection and the glorious hope He promises to all who have trusted Christ as their Saviour and Lord.

Jesus has taught us how God, our Father, cares for us: "Are not five sparrows sold for two farthings, and not one of them is forgotten before God? But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows" (Luke 12:6-7). If God knows and cares for a tiny, cheap bird which would probably be eaten by the poor, how much more will He care for His children, whom He counts very precious to Him. He even knows the number of hairs on every one of His children's heads. Such is the meticulous care that God gives to His people. If He takes notice of such an insignificant thing as a strand of hair of His children, which we seldom pay attention to, how comforted and consoled we should be even when adverse and frightening situations arise!

When turmoil and tragic scenarios arise in the public and personal realms of our lives, we must know that these things are already foretold by the LORD – "In the world ye shall have tribulation"; to comfort and strengthen us, He also added, "but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world" (John 16:33). We may find ourselves having no ability to control our circumstances. Our best efforts may not prevent catastrophic events. Deadly situations may suddenly fall upon us. But our Lord wants us to know that He will never leave us and will always be with us.

We should never despair of trials and death. The apostle Paul teaches us to rhetorically ask in times of tribulation, "Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?" (Romans 8:35). He then assures us, "For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 8:38-39). Note that Paul begins his list with death, which is the last adversity that we will experience in our earthy life. Even that final trial will not separate us from our God, because through Christ whom we have trusted, we shall enter eternal glory that He has prepared for us!
Therefore we can testify with David that "Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me" (Psalm 23:4). Indeed, with Paul, all the believers can say about their final trial – even death – that "We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord" (2 Corinthians 5:8).

Whether we be in life with many of its trials or in death, we should courageously say, "Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us" (Romans 8:37). The knowledge of God's loving care of our soul should cast all fear out of our hearts – "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love" (1 John 4:18). Because His love has removed our judgment and made us His children and heirs of His eternal kingdom, we fear not even our last enemy, death.

So, let all fear be far from us. "For whether we live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die, we die unto the Lord: whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord's. For to this end Christ both died, and rose, and revived, that he might be Lord both of the dead and living" (Romans 14:8-9).

As mortal beings, our life is fragile and fleeting. Ours is a perilous journey through time. This life on earth will not last long; it consists only "of few days" (Job 14:1; cf. Gen 47:9a). The strength of our bodies will decline sooner than many of us realise or imagine. Even those of us who might live seven decades or more will face death someday soon.

Life is Short/

Since the time of the first parents’ disobedience, there was never a hope of living forever here on earth. God had unequivocally proclaimed that death would ensue if they would sin (Genesis 2:17). Just as God warned, death (both physical and spiritual) entered the world the day Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit.
The first parents died, and all their descendants too, with just a couple of exceptions, namely Enoch and Elijah. We too will die, if Jesus would tarry further. Every life that is born into the world faces the reality of its demise shortly or later. Death is inevitable.

Even the longest life is very short, especially in comparison to eternity, for which our souls are created! Moses graphically spoke of the brevity of life – "The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labour and sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away" (Psalm 90:10).

Consider Scripture’s sombre biblical depictions of finite man’s weakness and the shortness of his life:

• "… our days on the earth are as a shadow, and there is none abiding" (1 Chronicles 29:15).
• "Now my days are swifter than a post: they flee away, they see no good. They are passed away as the swift ships: as the eagle that hasteth to the prey" (Job 9:25-26).
• "He (man) cometh forth like a flower, and is cut down: he fleeth also as a shadow, and continueth not" (Job 14:2).
• "They are exalted for a little while, but are gone and brought low; they are taken out of the way as all other, and cut off as the tops of the ears of corn" (Job 24:24).
• "For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb" (Psalm 37:2).
• "… they were but flesh; a wind that passeth away, and cometh not again" (Psalm 78:39).
• "Thou carriest them away as with a flood; they are as a sleep: in the morning they are like grass which groweth up. In the morning it flourisheth, and groweth up; in the evening it is cut down, and withereth" (Psalm 90:5-6).
• "… we spend our years as a tale that is told" (Psalm 90:9).
• "My days are like a shadow that declineth; and I am withered like grass" (Psalm 102:11).
• "Man is like to vanity: his days are as a shadow that passeth away" (Psalm 144:4).
• "…all the days of his vain life which he spendeth as a shadow" (Ecclesiastes 6:12).
• "…All flesh is grass, and all the goodliness thereof is as the flower of the field: The grass withereth, the flower fadeth: because the spirit of the LORD bloweth upon it: surely the people is grass" (Isaiah 40:6-7).
• "Mine age is departed, and is removed from me as a shepherd's tent: I have cut off like a weaver my life: he will cut me off with pining sickness: from day even to night wilt thou make an end of me" (Isaiah 38:12).
• "… as the flower of the grass he shall pass away" (James 1:10).
• "…For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away" (James 4:14).

Our life on earth is like an arrow that is sent forth from the bow of an archer – it moves forward with great speed without any chance of retreating or returning to the beginning of its flight. Life only goes forward, never backward!

Life is Limited

You may be a young man or a young adult, and you may be thinking that you have many more years to live. But, do not forget that you are closer to your grave than yesterday. Consider also how much of your life has already elapsed.

Moses prayed, "So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom" (Psalm 90:12). That prayer does not mean that we should know the day and hour of our death; rather, it urges us to have a practical impression that life is brief and the opportunities to live for God’s glory and for the blessings of God’s people are rather limited. Man has a set time to live and do the will of God. God has set our lives’ bounds, which no man can pass. Note that we are asked to number our days, and not our years or months or weeks! We must live a day at a time.

If you live a few more decades, your present youthful days will become a distant memory. The vigour and vitality of youthfulness will be replaced by the fear and feebleness of old age. We do well to ponder how well we have traded the talents, gifts and opportunities bestowed upon us. Such reflection should lead us to repentance within us for time misspent, gifts neglected, and opportunities squandered. It should also lead us to reconsecration of our lives to be faithful stewards of our limited opportunities.

Let us not misspend our time nor waste our talents. Put your God-given gifts to full use. Solomon the wise king advises us, "Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest" (Ecclesiastes 9:10).

Our Lord Jesus Christ provides us with the perfect example of making full use of one’s short life and its limited opportunities. He said in John 9:4 – "I must work the works of him that sent me, while it is day: the night cometh, when no man can work."

Our time on earth can end soon, either by our death or by Christ’s return. With such thoughts fixed firmly in our minds, we must be determined not to indulge in sin or lethargy, nor to waste precious moments of our limited life. As Paul said, "Therefore let us not sleep, as do others; but let us watch and be sober. For they that sleep sleep in the night; and they that be drunken are drunken in the night. But let us, who are of the day, be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love; and for an helmet, the hope of salvation" (1 Thess. 5:6-8). Much can be accomplished in the meantime for Christ’s glory and praise, by yielding ourselves wholeheartedly to do His purposes. This means that we seriously consider the shortness and limitation of our life, and commit ourselves to making the most of what remains.

Dear Christian,
Life is like a race. We, like runners approaching the finish-line, will soon come to our life’s end. It shall not go on and on.

How true are the words of Isaac Watts:

Time, like an ever-rolling stream,
Bears all its sons away;
They fly forgotten as a dream
Dies at the opening day.

My younger brother’s sudden death last Monday, at the age of 53, left my aged parents, his family and many of us who have known him shocked and devastated. We were dumbfounded that his life ended so fast. But we were grateful that the Lord has called him by the Gospel and prepared him through his short life on earth for heaven’s glory.

We may say that life is uncertain, but life will certainly end very soon, and it shall never again return to this earth. So Job said,

7 For there is hope of a tree,
if it be cut down, that it will sprout again,
and that the tender branch thereof will not cease.
8 Though the root thereof wax old in the earth,
and the stock thereof die in the ground;
9 Yet through the scent of water it will bud,
and bring forth boughs like a plant.
10 But man dieth, and wasteth away:
yea, man giveth up the ghost, and where is he?
(Job 14:7-10)

The realisation that our life is extremely brief has a very sobering effect on us. It leaves with us many hard questions about the purpose of our existence on earth. Why do we work so hard for this transient life on earth? Why should we take pride in our accomplishments, our wealth, our fame, etc.? Certainly, life does not revolve around its luxuries and pleasures.

If life would end soon, then why be fretful that it is full of troubles and disappointments? After all, it shall soon end, and believers shall enter the glory that God has prepared for them!

As I considered my brother’s sudden death, I have learned that the inescapable fact of life is that it revolves around God! He is the Giver and Taker of our life! He alone is eternal – without beginning or end. In view of His eternity, the duration of our earthly sojourn pales into insignificance. Moses said,

1 Lord, thou hast been our dwelling place in all generations.
2 Before the mountains were brought forth,
or ever thou hadst formed the earth and the world,
even from everlasting to everlasting, thou art God.
3 Thou turnest man to destruction;
and sayest, Return, ye children of men.
4 For a thousand years in thy sight are
but as yesterday when it is past,
and as a watch in the night."
(Psalm 90:1-4)

Life, then, is like a race. When the whole race is over, if we had run well, we shall soon hear the commendation: ‘Well done! Well done!’

Run Your Race with Christ in View

The Christian life is a race in which God’s child is focused on Christ, from the beginning to the end. Christians are exhorted to "run with patience the race that is set before us" by "looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith" (Hebrews 12:1-2).

The Greek word for "looking" (aphoráō) literally means looking away from one thing to some other thing in a steadfast or intent manner. It has been used to denote the fixing of the mind upon something. It expresses the mental posture that all Christians should maintain in relation to Jesus, as they run their Christian race. It should be a holy habit of our souls to keep the Lord Jesus in our view.

Looking at Jesus at the beginning of the race and then totally keeping Him out of view, is not the right kind of faith that Scripture teaches us. We should never lose focus of Christ in our Christian race. The reality is, some of the people who started the race with us may drop out of the race altogether while some others may be distracted and refuse to keep up, thus leaving us disappointed and troubled. But we must not let our minds be affected by their quitting. We must look away and fix our thoughts upon Christ. Even if all around us are a constant encouragement to us in our Christian race, it could well be our own lethargy and lust that hinder our race. Only when our minds are steadfastly fixed on Christ can we then overcome all distractions and obstacles, and complete our Christian race.

We look away from all else to Jesus only, for He is "the author and finisher of our faith". The Greek word for "author" was translated earlier as "captain" in chapter 2, verse 10. There it was said of Christ, "For it became him, for whom are all things, and by whom are all things, in bringing many sons unto glory, to make the captain of their salvation perfect through sufferings." Christ has set the path and He calls us to follow Him. It is Him, not the crowd, that we follow. The course of our race is shown by Him. He leads and we follow. His is our Guide, Strength and Motivation in our Christian race.

Jesus, the Author of our faith, has entered the heavenly sanctuary as our Forerunner (Hebrews 6:19-20), and has opened "a new and living way" for us that leads to this sanctuary (Hebrews 10:20). He is the "Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end" (Rev. 21:6; cf. 1:17; 22:13). He is our perfect Saviour and Captain, who is able to perfect all who have placed their trust in Him.

In 1 Corinthians 16:13, the apostle Paul wrote: "Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong."

What does the phrase, "quit you like men", in 1 Corinthians 16:13 mean? It is the translation of a Greek verb (andrizesthei) which has its origin in the root word (aner) that refers to adult males. Hence, the word denotes two ideas: (i) male as opposed to female, and (ii) adult as opposed to child. The twin emphases of the word in the ancient world were masculinity (vs. feminineness), and maturity (vs. childishness).

The phrase, "quit you like men", was used to call people to manliness, which is characterised by courage, bravery, resoluteness and strength. The apostle Paul used that phrase to demand that Christians put away every smidgen of fear, insecurity, nervousness and reluctance, and then to rise to fulfill their duties with courage and strength.

No man is without feelings of fear, anxiety or frailty, especially Christians who have to face troubling, frightening, even life-threatening situations as they live for and serve Christ. Nonetheless, Christians should not succumb to those powerful, debilitating emotions within them. They must set aside those emotions, and bravely confront the adverse situations that threaten to undermine their pursuit of Christ’s kingdom.

Christians should not only be bold and determined, but also be matured in their responses to the challenges that arise in the midst of their service for the Lord. They should not act like little children, who lack maturity. Paul exhorted the Corinthian Christians, "Brethren, be not children in understanding: howbeit in malice be ye children, but in understanding be men" (In 1 Cor. 14:20). As we grow in the Lord, we should be able to say, "When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things" (1 Cor. 13:11). When a child becomes a man, he puts aside childishness, with all its limitations and immaturity. His increased knowledge and understanding will equip him to act wisely, and he is ready to be tried and tested. A matured person acts with a sense of control, confidence and courage – having outgrown the immature, childish person that he once was.

Paul’s command to the Corinthian Christians to "quit you like men" was a summon to act differently from their past mannerisms, which were anything but spiritually matured. The Corinthians needed to wisen up. Paul knew that they did not make any progress since their early years when he was pastoring the church in Corinth – "And I, brethren, could not speak unto you as unto spiritual, but as unto carnal, even as unto babes in Christ. I have fed you with milk, and not with meat: for hitherto ye were not able to bear it, neither yet now are ye able" (1 Cor. 3:1-2). Paul was upset that he could not speak to the Corinthian believers as unto spiritual men. Since they had come to faith in Christ, they had gone no farther. Most of them were acting as if they had just been born again. They were still "babes in Christ"! Their immaturity and childish behaviour was so upsetting to him that he chided them, saying, "What will ye? shall I come unto you with a rod, or in love, and in the spirit of meekness?" (1 Cor. 4:21).

The schisms, immorality, abuse of sacraments, etc. found among the people of the Corinthian church were evidence of their immature, childish mindset. They needed to be watchful of their own condition to make a difference as mature Christians. So he wrote, "Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong."

If Christians remain childish, timidity and immaturity will act together to wreck their testimony and service for the Lord. Cowardice and foolhardiness must be quickly expelled from the lives of every Christian. How can we attain such manliness as what the apostle Paul summons us to? How can we grow to the maturity and strength of a strong spiritual man?

Paul expected the Corinthian believers to watch over their thoughts, emotions, words and actions. He wanted them to bring themselves under subjection to the Spirit and the Word, and thus be spiritually strong and valiant. Fortitude of a matured, godly man is what Paul is urging all Christians to exhibit.

We must be nourished up in the grace and wisdom of God through His Word. The apostle Peter exhorts us in 1 Peter 2:2, "As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby"; and in 2 Peter 3:18, "But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ." We must think and act according to the counsels of God’s Word. If we ever act without the Word of God, we will be immature and imperfect in our actions. Hence, Paul reminds us in 2 Tim 3:16-17 that "All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: that the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works." Likewise, we are admonished in Ephesians 4:14-15, "That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive; but speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ".

Refuse all childish cowardice and immaturity! Rouse yourselves to be spiritually strong Christians – biblical, Spirit-led men and women of God!

Every married man, if he is sincere, would confess that loving his wife is a lot more difficult than he had imagined. Why is it so? One of the most common responses of husbands is that the wife is not easy to relate to or that she is a very difficult person to communicate with. Though it is true that some women do exhibit a bitter and defiant spirit towards their husbands, it is undeniable that husbands do fail to love their wives as expected by the Lord.
The biblical imperative is that husbands ought to love their wives as Christ has loved the church – "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it" (Ephesians 5:25). No husband has ever fully loved his wife to that degree or extent which is expected of him by the Lord. So, every Christian husband must make it his duty to love his wife likewise.

Antecedent Love

In the relationship between Christ and the church, Christ’s love is antecedent to the church’s love for Him. "Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins" (1 John 4:10). "We love Him, because He first loved us" (1 John 4:19).
Christ’s loving redemption did not come to the church because she was perfect in her ways and pleased Him always. Instead, Scripture says, "But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8). So, husbands’ love for their wives cannot be merely a reciprocal affection. Husbands should love their wives, even though they feel disrespected or hurt by them.

Volitional Love

It is because of divine love that Christ has chosen a people to be redeemed and be His church. He said, "As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you … Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you…" (John 15:9a, 16a). Indeed, "Christ… loved the church" (Ephesians 5:25) – He chose to love the church.

Husbands must be committed to love their wives even when they are taken for granted or disrespected by their wives. It must be emphasised that the biblical command given to the Christian husband to love his wife is not contingent upon how well she conducts or fulfils her role. The desire to love his wife must always be kept burning within the heart, even when it seems very difficult.

Sacrificial Love

Christ’s love for the church is sacrificial; He made the ultimate sacrifice by dying for her redemption. "Christ …loved the church, and gave himself for it" (Ephesians 5:25).
Every husband must be willing to make sacrifices for his wife. This does not just mean that you are prepared to make that one ultimate sacrifice by dying for her, if need be. More than that, it means that you will live daily for her by painstakingly seeing to it that she be cared for and nourished up in Christ. Husbands ought to live sacrificially for his wife. He must be willing to set aside his personal interests to help her to be a happy and fruitful Christian woman.

Serving Love

Christ said that He came to serve the church - "Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many" (Matthew 20:28). He knew the physical and spiritual needs of His disciples, and ministered earnestly to them without delay.

Husbands must be concerned about and be ready to care for their wives’ needs. Husbands who are too occupied with themselves are often ignorant and indifferent to their wives’ problems and needs. Husbands are exhorted to "love their wives as their own bodies" (Eph. 5:28), and to "love his wife even as himself" (Eph. 5:33). Normally, no man would harm his own body, but would cherish and nourish his body. Likewise, every husband must love, care and nourish his wife. Though they abstain from adultery, husbands would still fail miserably in loving their wives as Christ loved the church, if they only think of being served by their wives and not serving their wives to cherish and nourish them. Husbands who show little interest in caring for their wives’ emotional, physical and spiritual well-being, must repent and strive to be servant-leaders, as Jesus is to the church.

Sanctifying Love

Christ loves the church with the intention of presenting her sanctified - "That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish" (Eph 5:26, 27).

Husbands who love their wives as Christ loves the church must also desire their spiritual purity, that they may be set apart for God’s glory and honour. Christian husbands must do everything needful – rebuke, instruct, encourage and lead – in order that their wives may pursue their sanctification. They should at all costs avoid provoking or guiding her to sin. There should be no vulgarity, dirty jokes or ungodly activities, such as watching ungodly movies and following a materialistic lifestyle. Husbands must admonish their wives if they have unbiblical thinking, bad habits or sinful conduct. Wives must also be instructed to dress modestly, to avoid appearing "under-dressed" (with hemlines above their knees, revealing clothes, etc.) – that they may not be sensual in their appearance and become a temptation to other men. Husbands must not approve of any worldly lifestyle adopted by their wives (1 Jn 2:15) if they were to love their wives as Christ loves the church.

Husbands’ highest duty of love to their wives is to help them grow in purity and holiness before God. Husbands must encourage their wives to be set apart for God and to increase in the service of the Lord. Husbands must always be mindful that their wives are given to them not merely for their pleasure and comfort, but to guide them according to the Scriptures for the Lord’s honour and glory. Through biblical instruction and example, husbands must help their wives to put sin to death so that they can come alive to righteousness. It is also the task of the husbands to help their wives flourish in the exercising of their spiritual gifts to serve and glorify God. Their wives must be encouraged to bring glory to God by doing good to others. Husbands ought to love their wives with a sanctifying love.

Steadfast Love

Jesus’ love is an enduring, steadfast love, for "having loved his own which were in the world, he loved them unto the end" (Jn. 13:1). It is with a lasting, faithful love that Christ loves the church. As the apostle Paul said, "Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?...For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Rom. 8:35-39).

Husbands must be utterly faithful and committed to their wives in the same way that Christ loves the church. Christian husbands must provide their wives the security of steadfast and faithful love, in which she can blossom emotionally and spiritually. A husband must be committed to his wife to the exclusion of all others – "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh" (Eph. 5:31; cf. Gen. 2:24).

Conclusion

A husband, who ill-treats his wife and puts her down, dishonours Christ. Such a husband projects a false picture of Christ, a "Christ" that could possibly abuse and put down His bride, the church. Husbands who desert their wives – either through infidelity or indifference – in effect portray a heresy, which gives the impression of a false Christ who could abandon His church. So, let every Christian husband bear a good witness in this ungodly world concerning his Saviour and Lord Jesus Christ, by loving his wife as Christ loves the church.